Where should I go camping in New York state/Connecticut?

I want to get out of the city for a couple of days before the summer is over, preferably somewhere near a body of water. (And minimum $$$.)

Where is beautiful and won’t break my presently rather fragile bank?

Love NYC, but I need to go hang out with some trees.

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"History’s gonna be harder to make than I thought." -…

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“History’s gonna be harder to make than I thought.” – Kanye/everyone via annfriedman

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30 hours til next deadline.

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30 hours til next deadline.

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A poem on “having it all.”

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A poem on “having it all.”

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I’m still tied up with book revisions (so close, so so close), so haven’t had the headspace to write here, but I do have a bunch of tasty jewels for you to eat. Er, read.

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“Ironically, as I have become a ‘public figure,’ I am less and less able to exist in public.” Shanley Kane on visibility as violence on social media. (Model View Culture)

Even the most flattering profile ultimately, in its obsession with appearances, diminishes a woman’s power.” Sarah Kendzior dissects how ladymags write about female politicians. (Politico)

Jessica Valenti on anti-feminist women. (The Guardian)

Laurie Penny on the feminist writer’s dilemma: how to write about the personal, without becoming the story. (New Statesman)

How I made sure I didn’t go home with a rapist. (The F Word)

“Greer is a brand. Hannah will never be one: she lacks charisma, is morally cautious, has an average body.” (London Review of Books)

How to be popular on Instagram. (Complex)

“This fairy tale—normal girl is spotted and becomes internationally famous—is one that fits particularly nicely with the reality-show ethos that we find ourselves surrounded with.” (The Beheld)

The hardest thing you’ll ever have to write. Alexandra Franzen on how to write a eulogy. (Alexandra Franzen)

What happened when we gave our daughter my last name. (The Hairpin)

Do fashion bloggers deserve more respect? (About Time)

Finally, a couple of weeks ago I collated a list of my favourite writers, and you know what I noticed? A good 50% of them edit or contribute to The New Inquiry. TNI is doing a flash-fundraise right now, with an anonymous benefactor kindly offering matching all donations until August 1. Head over, and help ensure they’re able to continue doing their great work. (The New Inquiry.)

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What is "fourth-wave feminism"?

“Fourth-wave feminism isn’t a religion with a holy book, or a club with a pledge of allegiance…”
Financial Times

There’s been a lot of talk about “fourth-wave” feminism in media over the past few months, especially in the British press, but what defines it? I think:

1/ No single voice or icon. So much fourth-wave feminist dialogue takes place on the internet, and the internet is home to multitudes of voices, all colliding with one another, debating, and pursuing different causes. This means that while our generation may produce great ideas, we are unlikely to produce a Steinem, a Wolf, or a Greer: a single iconic voice that stands for our movement and our generation.

2/ Intersectionality. Being a woman is not a single experience. Feminism is not just for white women, or for middle class professional women, and it should not just deal with its concern. In terms of our generation’s political/theoretical contribution thus far, I feel like fourth wave feminism is pretty much defined by intersectionality.

In a lot of the articles I read about “fourth-wave feminism,” though, it seems to boil down to: third-wave feminism, but with added internet! Or: zero change in what comprises feminism, but oh gosh, isn’t it great that people are finally talking about it again?

Thoughts? I’d love to hear them. Head over to my Facebook page to share what you think fourth-wave feminism is (and if you think it exists at all).

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Sorry I’ve been so quiet these past couple of weeks. I’ve been working crazy hours trying to finish up a big round of book edits, turn around a long form feature, and trying not to let myself get too distracted from a potential business idea which has me so excited that it’s threatening to take over my brain. Let’s just say it’s all I’ve wanted to talk about with Mr Musings this week. (Not good when you’re on multiple deadlines!)

My silence isn’t for lack of ideas, though – I’ve got one essay post half written up in a word document, and another couple half written up in my brain. I can’t wait to share them with you soon.

In the meantime, here’s some writing I’ve enjoyed from other people over the past couple of weeks to tide you over.

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Missy. (Fear City)

“She is brilliant with men, charming, tactile, very nearly seductive. … She is also brilliant with women – intimate, comic, always an ally.” Is it weird that whenever I read a profile story, I wish that I possessed the qualities of the person being profiled? Even, in this case, Rebekah Brooks. (The Guardian)

“Without meaning to, beauty YouTube has gone beyond emulating magazines, perfecting the rhetorical voice that the lifestyle media has been chasing for years.” Alice Bolin on the YouTube beauty vlogger economy. (The Hairpin)

Anatomy of a men’s right activist. (Vice) And Jessica Roy on what she learned as a woman at a men’s rights conference. (TIME)

Jean Friedman on the Somaly Mam affair, and the problem with basing our assumptions about the world on the most extreme, harrowing examples of an issue. (This problem exists across the board.) (Beacon Reader)

At times I liked being anorexic. … So I am really to blame, aren’t I?” Joanna Kay responds to my piece on bulimia for The Cut last week. (The Middle Ground)

You know what is amazing? This risotto. And also this salad. And this cake (although maybe add a little baking powder if you don’t want yours to come out flat, like mine did).

And this is lovely. Morning rituals for heart-centred entrepreneurs. (Mara Glatzel.)

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In the winter break of my final year of university, I told my friends I planned to write an essay that would “say the unsayable.” I titled the piece “Fragments of a Bulimic Headcase,” and published it a few months later under a pseudonym in my campus’s annual women’s publication, sent from a fake email address created specifically for the purposes of the submission.

If my friends ever read the essay, they didn’t know that I wrote it. At that point, bulimia was the most shameful secret I had: the corporeal evidence that the person I purported to be — fun, feminist, and effortlessly thin — was a lie. Among the smart, culturally savvy women and men I hung out with, bulimia was a subject of derision; an affliction of, as one girl I knew described it, vain cheerleaders, attention-seekers, and seriously disturbed individuals.

Bulimia comes out of the closet - and so do I – today at NYMag.com’s The Cut.

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Bringing back an old blog feature after a two year break, because links are good. Some things I’ve read and loved over the past couple of weeks.

“Maybe ‘not illegal’ is not the best way to think about the range of things it is acceptable to do.” (The New Inquiry)

“We totally match.” On Louis C.K. and assortive mating. (Sociological Images)

“Fast food is disparaged for being cheap and disposable. Its workers are hired because they are seen as the same.” Amazing long-form reporting by Sarah Kendzior. (Medium)

Want to write and sell a book? Here’s everything you’ve ever wanted to know about the American publishing industry. (Vanity Fair)

“Sometimes, you cry in a stranger’s arms precisely because they are a stranger.” (Danielle LaPorte) And, related: On Secret and Whisper … a lot of what’s posted are expressions of emotions that aren’t sinful so much as hard to say in other places.” (New York Times)

A bar for geeks in San Francisco.

A sneak peek at Emily Gould’s forthcoming novel, Friendship. (Book Keeping)

I made this for dinner on Wednesday. It was good. (How Sweet It Is)

Image via Richard Calmes.

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I’m working on a story for US Cosmo, talking to straight-identifying women who enjoy lesbian porn. Is this you? Drop me a line via email.

Women interviewed for the piece will be identified by first names only, and if you’d like to keep it super private, we can talk pseudonyms as well.

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